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 What would you do if tomorrow you would wake up and find out that you're BLIND!?
How would you react, and would your life stop there?...


 Are you still able to drink alcohol while taking antidepressants?
I've been taking Wellbutrin XL 300MG for 3 months and I havent drank ANY alcohol till today. My family bought several bottles of Sangria (which I love). So I had a glass at dinner....


 Does this mean im crazy?
I get drunk all the time, i sleep all day and i play guitar at a gig! I was once pregnant and after a few months after the baby was born my boyfriend left me, and the day after i lost the baby, ...


 I want to commit suicide?
I'm a failure. I have no friends. I do poorly in school (I got F's in all my classes except for one in which I got a D-)
My life in general is shitty. Please help me, what should I do?...


 Is it true that only 1 in 250 people have psychotic depression? Is it normal for a 14 year old to have it?
I'm 14 and have psychotic depression..is that normal?
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Yes, I do have it. My therapist told me a few months ago.
And I'm taking Fluoxitine and Seroquel ...


 I am feeling Suicidal... I am afraid I will attempt again......?
I had an abusive childhood


My mom was an alcoholic, my dad was absent, and my brothers (age 17) were old enough to get away. I was left behind. I was ten then (15 now).

...


 I feel like crying??????
Im not really sure why im not depressed or ever have been i just want to cry does anyone know why/how or anything??
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oh im not sad about anything idk y!!? AND im not ...


 I have a thing for my plumber.. should I lock him in the house with me?
Two weeks ago I had a clogged bathroom drain due to some old tampons. Anyway.. DAMN! the plumbers as sweet as apple pie.. a down right HUNK of a man!

So last week I clogged up my drains on ...


 is anyone going through what im going through please help?
my childs father in i was in a relationship for a year in a half we now have a 1 year old daughter in a baby on the way 5 month pregnant. were not together anymore now cause he left me 3 months ago ...


 Should I kill myself???????? I am 16?
I truly have nothing to live for, no good friends, lovers or family that cares about me. My dad is a douche (putting it extremely lightly) and my mom's a drug addict. I don't believe in god,...


 Are you addicted to anything?
Not necessarily anything immediately dangerous like drugs or alcohol. More harmless things like facebook, a TV show, a particular food, etc....


 self esteem problem.....?
ok so, something has been going wrong with my self esteem. like b4, i was a reallllly happy person. i loved to go out with my friends and just be around people. and i was kinda full of my self, i ...


 Im 15 and suicide is what I think about.?
I am a 15 year old girl and I feel that my life is bad enough for it to end it's not really something I should being posting on here but I need advice ad I have no one who I can talk to about ...


 Why do crazies some times sleep in bathtubs?
Every time i see a movie about a crazy person chances are he will sleep in a bath tub, Why is that?...


 i think i have ocd tell me?
When i wash my hands i sometimes do it more than once. When i walk, sometimes i go back a few steps and do it again. I think i even sometimes turn lights on and off more than once. Now tell me ...


 Why am I listening to classical music?
I like it, but for about the past two weeks, I've had a particular spike in interest. I don't know what it is, am I depressed?? I have been listening to Air on G, Requiem-Mozart, Clair de L...


 do i need some pot to calm my nerves?
im always paranoid, anxious and over anylize every little ache or pain or everything else to life. i cant sleep and nite and i sure as hell cant relax! just curious wud this drug help me at all?...


 I've been really depressed lately and nothing seems to help!!!!?
ive been real depressed lately and been feeling really lonley, i feel like im sketchin around the brim of sanity. ive tryed every thing that makes me feel good (no drugs or booze) evrey thing i love ...


 am i weird or its me (huh i cant understand why but i cant kill myself)?
huh i cant understand why but i cant kill myself

i tryed to cut my arms
i tryed to eat medics and i ated lots of them
i trewed myself in front of a car the car stopped
hang ...


 I truely need help, I'm feeling so suicidal?
My mind is really messed up at the moment,Im so depressed, I feel like there is no point in me living another day,Im 19 n have been feeling this way for a very long time now - previously on here ...



freedom to choose
10 yrs and I'm still angry with life after death of 16 year old daughter?
it will be the 10th annivesary of my daughters death on the 12 feb, I am still angry with life and with myself for not being able to make her well, I have struggled with life and lonliness since she went, when I was 22 I lost a girlfriend of 5years she was 19y.o. I was a single father after splitting from my kids mother when my son was 10 and daughter was 9, my son still lives with me and now is 27, I find it hard to have a relationship with a woman for fear of losing them again, I have been on many different anti-depressants in the last 10 years and been off and on at work, sometimes I get real low and have tried to commit suicide twice, how can I get out of this rut and find someone to share my life without me getting so negative
                      








Bob Danvers-Walker
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Stop thinking this site will give you the answers and get on with your life


Iain the ORN!
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Time to buck your ideas up and stop feeling sorry for yourself! Either that or go out on a killing spree!


reddchilds
Put all that negative energy towards something positive. I know that you miss her but she is still alive in your heart. Consuming all that anger will only make you sick. Think about it then pray about it.


senior2tor
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Start with the front door. You live with your son let him go . You are depressed and need to learn what makes depression and not keep making more depression. The dead are in heaven but we need to keep learning new things about life. Focus on keeping a job and drop the medications so you can think again. If you can keep a job , build a home with stable life activities and try to meet new people you will find another partner ready for you . No woman can rely on some person who is weak in all he does. This question you wrote is a beginning for getting you organized again. Put your ideas on paper and keep a diary. You are so close to happiness believe me.


romanisis
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Oh.Brother.
What can anyone say.
Fear of another lasting relationship,is"selffufilling phrophey"
You will never let go of that Tragedy.
But your DAUGHTER LOVES you so much,she wants you to be happy and make her smile again,through,DADDY,being happy again for HER.


CHICK
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Think about your daughter, what would she think about you being so sad and angry? I know it's hard,but you can get through it. Try talking to someone. Hang in there. Your anger will end up killing you.


Shortydeb
sir, please seek help from God and talk to your minister.Grief from losing someone you love can drive you out of your mind. i have lost my parents both within one year and I too was angry and bitter and lonely and sad. But when I opened up my eyes and realized that they are with God in Heaven now,they must be very happy and no longer in pain. It is the anniversary of my moms death and I cry and pray and mourn for my loss..But I also thank god for taking them home to him and making them happy and pain free. You will get through this friend .I too have a fear of losing ones close to me.also. You just have to hold on to your faith in God and know that God has a plan for all of us and he loves and takes care of all of us. I do hope you are on a anti-depressannt and have someone to talk to. Depression is an illness and it kills people every single day.One way to deal with the relationships is not to comitt but to just enjoy friendship until you feel ready.Just date and take it slow,have some fun. Good Luck friend..God Bless


val f1 nutter
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my heart goes out to you, i cannot begin to imagine the pain of losing a child. you really need to talk to someone. join a group or get some counselling and stop blaming yourself so much. sorry i cant be of any real help to you but i send my best wishes.


jet b
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nobody gets through this life without serious
trouble at times,you certainly have had your share, but my best suggestion is try to be as happy as possible one day at a time,not tommorrow just today, don`t look back,looking
back will not solve any problem. Most parents
feel guilty about things that happen to their children,mainly because we feel as though we
should be able to protect them,but really that
just not possible. You probably did the best you
could have done. Find somebody that needs help and put your energy into that endeavor.Good luck.


the hater
wow babe I feel for you so much. 6 years ago my son aged 29 hung himself. I knew he was going to do it but didnt know when or where. I have so much pain thats rips through me sometimes, because I feel I should have watched him and stopped him, but I am learning to feel that it was what he wanted and respect his wishes. I have also tried suicide and really it isnt the way to go, they wouldnt want us to do it. I am just in the process of building a new relationship after my last broke up, mainly because of the grief, I believe that my son would have wanted me to do this and be happy. We can never forget but we can believe in the future. Babe best wishes and try for it, you cant loose everytime. Lots of love and best wishes Pauline.


justasiam29
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I understand what you saying, and it's ittle wonder after all you've been through you are feeling depressed and sad.

Before you can get into a successful, healthy relationship, though, you need to look at making yourself feel better. I say this as someone who has suffered depression for a long time and has been through a string of failed relationships because I expected falling in love with someone to make me feel better - it didnt. All that happened was that I brought my problems into the relationship.

Have you spoken to your doctor about seeing a counsellor or therapist to help you look at the root causes of your depression? If not, or if you have tried this already and it hasn't helped, I can suggest one alternative recommended to me by a friend.

There is a book called The Journey by a lady called Brandon Bays that has ways of getting to the root of physical and emotional problems, and it's well worth a read, or go to www.thejourney.com

The fact you recognise the cycle you're in and that you want to get out of it is a good thing, and you will do it if you want it enough.

Best of luck.


Chloe
Hi! I'm sorry for your loss. I have lost two brothers, my mom my dad, two close girlfriends, these are just a few but too lose a child has to be the hardest thing ever. I don't even want to conceive that thought. I don't know what to tell you. I myself feel you never get over losing some one you loved and care about. I try to think of where they are. That they are in no pain, and are so happy. To remember them is to keep their memory alive. Do we ever get over it? No, we learn to live with it because we have no choice. You have a son, even if he is 27 he still needs you. I hate not having my parents. How, would he feel without you? Killing yourself would make someone else feel like you are. I know you don't want that for someone you love. Your not opening up to love again for fear of loss. What if that doesn't happen? Then you are missing out on something special. God Bless You. I think your daughter would want her dad to be happy.


rose_merrick
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I can understand your anger, but it is a shame as it will stop you enjoying your life and affect your relationships, and uses up alot of energy. Go speak to a GP. No one here will be able to help you, only give sympathy. I do feel sorry for your loss, as we all do, but there are people out there near you that can and will help, if you are prepared to give them a go. Good luck


swtluvingcntrygirl
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I am sorry for you loss.I can't imagine the feeling of loosing one of my children. I think you need to keep trying, there is always another day to get through.I think you should get some counceling with other's in your situation which can relate to you and compare stories of sadness and defeat. Good luck to you! I hope you hang in there for your other kids.You need to stay as strong as you can for your other children.You can lean on eachother. Y ou need your kids as much as they need you.:)


shannon G
moving on with your life does not mean that you will forget your daughter. Being held down by grief is not living and as you know it is taking its toll on your life. Your other children need you and is it fair to keep your daughter's memory alive in a negative way by not giving your children all you have to give?

Losing the ones we love is something we all have to take the risk of facing some day. The best thing you can do for your daughter and family is to keep her memory alive in a positive way. Share your memories of her with her siblings, and allow her siblings to share thier memory of her with you. Perhaps make a yearly tradition of making a poem to her in her honor, or a scrap book.

For you to heal you need to learn to let her go. She is a far better off place, and in her place of eternal rest, if she knew you were living this way for her... it would sadden her.
If you have to, when you are ready, write her a letter, in this letter share with her your thoughts and feelings, and also make a vow to her for you to move on in a positive way. Let your life stand for something, give it meaning by allowing yourself to be the best dad you can be to her siblings and other family.
Rip up the letter, or burn it, or send it in a stream , river or lake, or even send it on the wind in a helium ballon... and after you release the letter, hold the vow to your heart and live each day with baby steps of course, to the fullest and blessed it can be!
All you can do is try, and that is the best any of us can do in this life, Your family needs you and it would be a shame to leave your son with a memory of his sister gone, and then his dad... and leave him with feelings that you know all too well, and have him commit suicide... it's a vicious cycle that you have the power to end... but it's up to you.

If you need someone to talk to... sometimes a total stranger helps. please feel free to use my email...

God Bless, Shannon


douglas b
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I think you need to go and see your doctor to talk about your hurt.
There is no shame in admitting you can't cope, and are going through a difficult time.
The anniversary of your daughter's death will be heightening your negative thoughts.
Please, go and see someone.
You can't do it all on your own.


truebeing3030
First, and I will stress this, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT THAT YOUR CHILD PASSED!!!! You need to really believe this. I think that guilt may be running it's course w/ you. I truly and deeply believe that when we die we go to heaven. We will see the ones we lost and we WILL get to spend AS MUCH time w/ them as we want. You, my dear, have to believe. It WAS NOT your fault that she got sick and died. You have to really believe that god is taking care of her and that was her plan. Your son you say is still w/ you. You have to focus on getting close w/ him. I feel you may have pulled yourself away from him because of all this trauma in your life. I want to say this to you, please, some people feel like they should be sad. Your daughter doesn't want you to be sad. I will promise you one thing....... Believe in God and you will have a dream of your daughter this week letting you know she is ok. Let your daughter in. About not wanting to get close to other women.... You have to take a chance. The reason you are hurting so bad is because you don't really believe that you will see your daughter again! I promise you will!!! Good luck!!!!


bricktopsglasses
It sound like you have not received any good support way back when al this first started. You may not have depression as the problems you have had to deal with would naturally cause severe feelings of loss and failure. Having pills thrown at you is not the right answer, you should have support for emotional needs and how you view these events. I would suggest if you contact a bereavement service (if in the UK it's called 'cruse'.) It will be a good starting point for you to talk through the death with people who have been there and survived and now help people just like you. It will do you good to revisit your thinking on the situation and talk openly about it with others who know how you feel. You will learn to look at this differently and start to heal after grieving properly. Don't think about it, ditch the pills and start talking.


tn_lonely1
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Have you looked into therapy? There are also group support programs for people just like you that have lost a child. Contact any health professional or a church and they will guide you in the right direction.
I am not going to tell you I understand how you feel, I have 2 teenagers myself and luckily they are both healthy young adults.
God Bless you.


lucy7
I've lost both of my children. My first lived only 1 hour and 48 minutes. I thought that was the worst thing that could ever happen to me. Until I lost my second daughter, who was 24 at the time. That's been over 10 years ago. I lost a great job, been in therapy, went to support groups, you name it I did it. I know of the anger you are going through, maybe not for the same reasons. Two men could have saved her but didn't. Nothing was done to them. I, like you, was on many different anti-depressants. One day, I just said no more medication. I tried moving away to run from the pain, but it followed me. My friends didn't know what to say to me, nor did my family (what was left of them), so I was really on my own. Nobody can relate, they don't know what to say to you. I had one person tell me they knew how I felt because they had lost a dog, and that was like a child to them. She meant no harm, I know that, but the comparison was unexplainable. This year at Christmas, I did ok for the first time in years. Don't get me wrong, the pain and heartache will never go away, and I will mourn for her for the rest of my life. What got me through was my strong belief in God, and knowing that one day, we will be together. I'll be able to hold my first daughter (and see her for the first time!). I'll be reunited with both of my children. Suicide is NOT the answer. The pain that you will leave behind is something you don't want your family and friends to deal with. Not long after I lost my 2nd daughter, I got married to the wrong man... someone I thought could fill that horrible void. It was a disaster, to say the least. I got away from the creep. But, I also learned a lesson (albeit expensive). Until you are mentally healthy, don't look for a serious relationship. Look only for a good friend that will stand by you and let you mourn in your own way. There is no time limit on how long you should mourn, no matter what anyone will tell you. I've done volunteer work, and found that I am not the only one with problems. You might consider doing volunteer work, and, if you believe in prayer and God, get yourself into a good church. Anger is part of the grieving process, and you need to learn how to channel your anger. I pull weeds (in the warmer weather). One person asked if that was my new way of mowing my lawn! I tore every single weed I could find right out of the ground, if it took all day and all night. In colder weather, I clean house. You may want to go build a birdhouse or something that you can hammer nails into. Beating that nail with a hammer will release a lot of anger and energy. I have a friend whose daughter was murdered (she was 8 months pregnant at the time and the baby died, too). She drove to a remote area and screamed and cried, and beat her steering wheel until it broke. Later, she founded a support group. Look around and you will find you are not the only one to lose a child and are hurting, so you might consider starting your own support group. Every holiday, get a helium balloon, write your daughter's name on it and a message to her from you, then release it. By the way, I lost my first husband when I was in my 20s, so I know what it is to lose those you love. It's awful, and you wonder if you will make it, or, why you should. But don't give up and quit. You have a purpose in life, and you need to find that purpose. If you want someone to talk with that can relate, let me know and I will send you my email address. But don't give up. I keep the serenity prayer and Footsteps in the Sand close by and read them every single day. If you can't make it day to day, make it minute by minute. Hang in there. Stop listening to sad music. When you are down, call someone (anyone). Don't rush into a relationship because you are lonely and miss your daughter. Take your time. Go slow. I promise you, things will be ok.


milk fur♥
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It's hard for people to get through things like this even if it does take 10 years, but you are evidently in need of some guidance.
See a psychiatrist, they can help you learn new ways to have relationships and get rid of that fear along with how to deal with the death of your daughter after all this time.
Medication is never the correct answer, medication should only be used as a small help in these problems but you don't seem to have a chemical imbalance you are using medications for the wrong reason, they're just a way to mask your problems but you will never get rid of your problems this way.
You need to find a new way to deal with these problems by taking steps to change how your life is currently.
Don't give up on life, ask friends and family if they know of any good psychiatrists in the area they can help you learn how to deal with your problems and how to get back into having relationships without the anxiety, you don't deserve to be unhappy.


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