Joshua G
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You better call 911. |
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rebecca b
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I'm sooooooo sorry! If i knew my dad was gonig to die i would be heart borken too. I'm his little girl! I really don't know what you can do you'll have to find that out of your own NONE of us can tell you. Take care! |
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xobaseballox2
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UHm...coping classes might help a bit..
but you would never really get over it.
its your dad...and no one is going to ever be able to replace him.
but talk to your friends..True friends will help you through everything. |
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WC
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5 years is a long time for someone with a transplanted heart. |
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ddunau
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Try to do things to take your mind off of it for the time like talking with friends. You also might want to see a counsler he/she might be able to help too. |
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TheEmoFreak
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i am so sorry. ^ ^
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be happy for the years that you had together. your family should go on a really long vacation. make memories that will last forever.
live like it's the last day of the world.
you could pray and he might survive, but God knows when it's time.
when you graduate your Dad will be really proud of you. |
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a_phantoms_rose
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I am so sorry that your father is passing. Knowing ahead is hard in some ways and also easier in other ways.
You have an opportunity here to spend loving time with your dad and to let him know what his impact on your life means to you. Please tell him how much his life and teachings have helped you and how much you appreciate them.
You will be with your father again. Share that you know that with him now.
God bless you for caring.
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hava
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In 6 months dad can improve the body functions and heart function and general health.Do the pranayam(breathing exercise) everyday.Build up the timing gradually.If feeling tired or dizzy, stop and resume later.Keep monitoring the medical tests and you will see improvement.If dad has improved quality of life after 3 months of pranayam then he will live much much longer.So enjoy the time with dad.
Anulom Vilom –
Close your right nostril with thumb and deep breath-in through left nostril
then – close left nostril with two fingers and breath-out through right nostril
then -keeping the left nostril closed deep breath-in through right nostril
then - close your right nostril with thumb and breath-out through left nostril.
This is one cycle of anulom vilom.
Repeat this cycle for 20 to 30 minutes twice a day(maximum 60 minutes in one day).
You can do this before breakfast/lunch/dinner or before bedtime or in bed.Remember to take deep long breaths into the lungs.You can do this while sitting on floor or chair or lying in bed.
Kapalbhati -(Do it before eating) Push air forcefully out through the nose about once per second. Stomach will itself go in(contract in). The breathing in(through the nose) will happen automatically. Establish a rhythm and do for 20 to 30 minutes twice a day.(Max 60 min/day) Not for pregnant women. Seriously ill people do it gently. |
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no one on here can help you through the pain you will experience loosing a parent. My friends father past away at the beginning of last year, and she still has her bad days, but she takes comfort in knowing he will always be around her, watching over her and her son. The only suggestion i can give you, is let your friends be your shoulder and take advantage of every moment you can spend with him. Make sure you have said everything you have to say and captured as many memories as you share with him. Be strong, there will always be someone in your life that will support you, |
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bellybonce
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We all have the expectation that our Dad will die before us but I'm sorry for you that it has a time frame of just a few years at your young age.
Just make the most of your time with him. Do things together so that you have lots of good memories and take lots of photos. Make him proud of how well he has raised you to go forth into the world with a bright future so that he doesn't have to worry about you and feel guilty.
When death is expected it does give you the opportunity to do things and say things before - it is worse when some-one dies suddenly or unexpected as there was no chance to do this and people are often left with a lot of guilt and if-onlys.
Remember that other family members will no doubt be feeling the same as you so you need to pull together and help each other. Good luck. |
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Holiday
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I lost my dad a year ago. I go to least spend time with him before he went to Heaven. don't be depressed you at least have a time frame that you can spend with him. He will need you to be their and to be strong. Enjoy him every minute of everyday. It's harder when you lose a loved one suddenly because you don't have time. You know that at least you have some time . Life isn't fair, at least my six year old boy got to have a grandpa for 6 years in his life. I didn't have any grandpa. Enjoy each moment. I know how you feel it is also ok to cry...You have to allow yourself to deal with it...god bless...sorry to hear about your dad to. |
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Menthoids
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This is obviously a great worry for you, it is a sad situation for you both.
The people that have advised you spend time with your dad are right, it's the best. The people that say medicine is not always right are correct too, and the person who suggested things can change is also right.
There are pumps being made now that can take the place of a heart, and maybe they will be available before your dad has to die.
Counsellors are really good at helping people come to terms with the kind of sadness, fears and losses that you are experiencing, and I do agree that seeing one, with or without (or both) your father would be quite helpful.
We are all dying from the moment we are born. While its natural, it's hard. Make some really good memories now while your dad is alive, so when eventually he is gone (whenever that may be), you can think about those good times. Do things as his health will allow, that you both enjoy, take pictures of you together enjoying things, even a picnic can be a nice ting to do.
You will always love him, and he you. When people are dying they need to know that they 'loved well' so make sure you tell him, that you feel really loved and that he is the best dad ever, every chance you get.
Best wishes. |
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Buzz
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Savor every last minute with him. Tell him you love him. Keep all memories of him close to your heart. He will live within you forever. |
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Fire Tiger
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spend more time with him :) |
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ºMuslimº
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I'm very sorry to hear this. I would recommend you spend as much time as you can with him, that way you will have a lot of great memories.
You might want to look into seeing a psychologist, they can help you feel a lot better. (Make sure it's a psychologist, not a psychiatrist)
If you aren't able to find a psychologist, a school counselor could definitely help you out.
That's about all the advice I can give you, but do whatever you can to take your mind off of it. |
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'Old & Cudley'
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I am a transplant patient also and I tell my family to live each day as if it was my last, so that when the end eventually comes, the impact will not be so hard on them. In other words, Love him as much as you can now, spend as much time as you can with him and NEVER let him dwell on his problem. Only God knows when the end will come, doctors can only guess. |
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Jaysin D
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that is really sad, im sorry for you. just think that when you graduate college, your Dad will be in heaven, with no more pain, stress and disease, watching you, smiling and proud. |
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Real
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You can't really say that he has only that long to go. Medical technology is advancing rapidly. Just because they estimate a certain length of time doesn't mean an individual is limited to that. Ask your dad if you can come with him and talk to his doctor next time he goes. I'll bet it's a bit more optimistic than that.
In the meantime, make the most of the time he has. Call him frequently, tell him you love him. Tell jokes with him. Don't spend your time fretting and worrying. I didn't know my dad except when I was tiny and neither has my son known his. That was totally their doing. But, you do know your dad, and please enjoy it while you have it. |
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RhiaB
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How about looking for a support group...grief type groups for teenagers. |
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